I think almost everyone, myself included, has struggled to fit in at one point. To be one of the “it” girl and guys, and not being able to be part of that crowd left many feeling rather sad or not good enough.
It is definitely harder now than it was when we were younger because of the ever increasing pressures of social media. I mean, you are not included and you are constantly reminded on Face book, twitter, Instagram, Snap chat and the many other networks kids are on these days.
If the “high school” movies we grew up watching (mean girls 1&2 , etc) have taught us, it is that some girls will do whatever it takes to be part of something that makes them feel better about themselves only to later realise what they were looking for was inside themselves the whole time.
Anyway, it is important for each one of us to first of all, love our own company. As in, love hunging out with yourself; get an abundant “me time” in before you start running around to do whatever it takes to fit. With the “me time” comes self discovery, what you like doing, your interests and all that. Lastly, find people who are share your interests and principles, people who compliment you and encourage you; REAL FRIENDS aka “ride or dies”. I think that slowly being your own person will help you filter what kind of person you want to be to others, what principles you stand for, your character and who you hung out with( your own “it” crowd).
There’s an old Kiganda saying: Tell me who you walk with, and I will tell you your manners.
(Note: I don’t think I translated it right…but you get the pictureJ).
Hugs and Hearts,