Law of Attraction ?

at·trac·tion

əˈtrakSH(ə)n/

Noun

  1. The action or power of evoking interest, pleasure, or liking for someone or something.
  2. A quality or feature of something or someone that evokes interest, liking, or desire.
  3. A thing or place that draws visitors by providing something of interest or pleasure.

I once dated a guy who was sort of bothered by the fact that I didn’t wear as much makeup as most girls or that I did not wear heels as much either. Honestly, I am not that kind of girl, not that there’s something wrong with that, it’s just not me.

I guess while I was attracted to him for how he made me feel, he was attracted to me for my physical features. I don’t know, isn’t it better to start something with someone for how they make you feel, not what they wear or look like.

I have always assumed that attraction paved the way to something else in a relationship. If we are attracted to each other, then there’s a way you make me feel, that I can’t get from just anybody. There’s something that separates you from all the other guys.

I however feel like sometimes women are pressurized to look or dress a certain way to attract a guy’s attention. They judge you depending on how big your boobs are or how thick your hips are or how much skin you show or how tight your jeans are, the more you have the more attractive you are. I read an article in the paper yesterday about how some women opted to “bleach” their skins to achieve a lighter complexion, so that they are considered more attractive by men (sad). Isn’t there much more to me than that? Isn’t what I say, my character and most importantly how I (the real me) not my body makes you evoke any interest for me.

Looks and what we wear are important, but they should not be the reason you stay. The qualities that make you desire me should be things on the inside, not on the outside, otherwise there’s almost no difference from lusting for me. Or would you prefer I become your wildest dreams, and transform into the physical being you would want and sacrifice my real personality so that you deem me attractive.

It should be beyond the hair, the makeup, the clothes because if there should come a time when am shapeless, having a terrible hair day, no makeup so all the acne is out, jeans and a t-shirt, nothing else, will you still stay? Will I still affect how you feel? Will I still interest you? , or will I just not be as attractive as I used to be?

Hugs and hearts

Esteri 🙂

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5 thoughts on “Law of Attraction ?

  1. Oluchee says:

    the reason why, whenever a guy asks me ‘what do you like about me?’, i don’t know how to answer, tbh ‘I just like you’. If you were to dye your hair blonde and cut it like Chrisbrown did, you might be finer or uglier and I’d still just like you same

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