Hi friends, It’s been a while since I wrote on this blog but am back!
For about a year, I’d pivoted to my travel blog to focus all the emotions I had at the time on things that were cheery like travel and food and lifestyle, but I gradually realised that it too, had its own hiccups. It’s really true what they say, you must learn to be happy from the inside, then everything on the outside will be happy too.
But am taking a step back and also saying that the things on the outside can and have affected my happiness on the inside. As I write this, my family is going through a tough time, an issue – a crisis if you must. We are believing for a good outcome, but I can’t help but be affected by that and all the other things going on in my life and in this country. Most times, I really want to go away, escape everything and just be, without worry or issues, and not just only in my mind, but also on the outside. So, I guess, am waiting…
Waiting to be beautiful, waiting for my butt and boobs and skin and legs and face to be pretty. And not so that a guy will like me, no no no, so that I can be comfortable in my own skin. To be honest, the journey of beauty is not one of arrival, you are on it for a while… It’s more of a marathon than a sprint. There was a time when being chubby bothered me, it doesn’t anymore. And there was a time when I thought that guys weren’t asking me out because I wasn’t pretty, also not an issue anymore. My current issues are more around what I know I should be thinking verses what I actually think. I know the Bible says am beautifully and wonderfully made, but do I think am beautifully and wonderfully made when a candid shot of me is not flattering at all, or when my legs are evidently larger in all the photos I take so I wear loose pants instead, or that my boobs are uneven so I stay away from “spaghetti” tops or that my tummy has “tyres” so am more of a t-shirt kinda girl? So I guess by waiting to be beautiful, am waiting for my mind to agree with the word of God.
Am also waiting to be happy. Crisis after crisis and drama after drama. When the word of God says that in this world you will have trouble but fear not, I have overcome the world. You expect drama and crises, but you aren’t necessarily prepared for how you’ll feel when it occurs. Sometimes, while you go through what you are going through, its tough to “talk about your feelings ” because you are afraid no one will understand or that friends will judge you, “how could you let this happen” they’ll say with their eyes. You pray, because only God will listen and not judge you but he’s not a face you can see or a person you can hug. Wouldn’t be nice if someone would stop and say “Hi, how was your day”, but this isn’t a romcom and everyone is going through something so you have to deal with your own cares in whichever way you deal with them. I personally think of travelling far far away and being there for a while. When I lived abroad, that was such a liberating year for me. It was nice to be twice removed from anything going on in Uganda and I was too much of a foreigner where I lived to have any “real issues”. My happy place is being somewhere in Singapore, free from this country and all the problems that come with living here. But this is no way to live because I have no assurance to when I will ever leave the country again and I have a purpose bigger than myself to fulfill. There’s a reason I was designed the way I am and born where I was, there’s a reason why am here. So I guess by saying am waiting to be happy, am waiting for the powerful peace of God to consume my anxiety and depression.
Waiting to be seen. Because am such a wallflower, I could be in a place and no one would have memory of me being there. I appreciate every stranger who says hi to me or people like me even though they don’t know us. I don’t do it because its a bit uncomfortable for me but for those who have the grace to do it, keep on keeping on. People tend to notice people who are beautiful and talented and extraordinary, the plain Janes of this world always seep through unnoticed. Am waiting for my big thing, to catch another break, to be beautiful, to be happy, to be seen by those who matter, to be pursued, to be loved, especially by me. But everyone’s eyes seem to be closed, mine included. So I guess by saying am waiting to be seen, I am waiting for the light of God to shine through me.
Its been long since I wrote something like this, too long that I think I remember why I started this blog almost 5 years ago.
Its good to be back 🙂